“Help! Am I Going Through a Midlife Crisis”?

“Help! Am I going through a midlife crisis”?

[Here is a very common question I just received again from a new student]

“Hi John,

I am 42 and I hate my job and I can’t stand working in the corporate world anymore! I want to head in another direction but I don’t know where to begin. I know school would be an obvious answer but I have also thought of running a B&B or working as a caretaker. How does someone get started stepping out? I have tons of experience in the travel industry and Customer Support. I just don’t think I can take one more day of the rat race!” - Thanks, Julie

Julie, I am well acquainted with your current state of affairs. I know from experience the feelings you are having right now. I took myself out of “The Rat Race” after 20 years in the corporate world. I now specialize in helping others also leave this endless race.

It’s not fun to be stuck in a job or career that we dislike – we all should be doing what we love to do. Yet like your opening admission, it’s hard to know where to start. Most people just react and start making changes without understating the reasons and dynamics that got them where they are to begin with. So, they just change “the scenery”, but usually within a matter of mere weeks or months they start experiencing the same feelings and frustrations as before, because there was no change in mindset.

So, don’t just change jobs or change cities or any of those kinds of things that people do. The grass is never greener on the other side.

Instead…

Change your mind, change the way you think. Change your mindset. Become a master dreamer of the life you choose to have and work with that image by playing it over and over in your mind until it becomes so. This is the practice of reprogramming your subconscious mind – which is running the show, by the way.

If you think about it, you’ll probably realize that, like most, all your life you have been living based on the “programming” handed down to you by parents and society. You’ve likely ended up doing what you’re doing because, “that’s just the way things are always done”…

For example, the age-old mantra, “Go to school, get a good job, work for a good company and retire”. We all just fall in line into these pre-programmed paradigms of expectation. It is very easy and automatic and nonconscious.

Maybe you should run a B&B? Maybe you should be doing something else that you haven’t even considered? If you learn some simple techniques, your mind will lead you to it…

Job one is to do a factory reboot of your brain and dump all the old ways of thinking. No need to listen to anybody else on this matter. Your “inner-self” (your intuitive mind) is the expert on who and what you are / want to be! You simply need to become aware of it and “be” it. I don’t mean what job you should “do”; I mean what “state of being” do you want to experience (i.e., freedom, joy, happiness, exhilaration, etc)?

Here is where people go wrong, they think if they just “do” a certain thing, then they will “be” what they want to – i.e. “happy”. Life doesn’t work that way – we all have it backwards. The great secret of life that nobody ever taught you is that if you would just “be” something first (“happy”) then all the other things you desire will come to you! Be happy first (even while you’re still in a miserable job) and your state of being (happiness) will draw other people, opportunities and ideas to you! This will lead you where you want to go. Your life experience is created and generated always from your “states of being” – day in day out…

Within you right now is the power and ability to create and accomplish anything you want in life. In order to do that you need to develop a new mindset that accepts that statement as true. You need to visualize a mental image of yourself – as you now choose to be – and hold no other self-image. This will be fought by your subconscious mind as it holds another picture of yourself based on 42 years of programming, but after about 28 days it will start to soften up and accept your new self image if you work at it daily. Unless you do this mental work, nothing else will ever take.

This is probably not the answer you were expecting today, but it is the answer that your yearning drew forth to you!

The world is screaming for more people like you who are willing and ready to share their “real selves” with the world and not just be another gear in the machinery; Good for you!

Thanks for stepping out!

Be BOLD and mighty forces will come to your aid! – Basil King

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The #1 Reason Why Your Life is a Mess and What to Do About It

The #1 Reason Why Your Life is a Mess (and What to Do About It)

There is one overriding reason why your life is in the state that it is. And that reason is because your life is the physical reproduction and replication of what you mentally imagine yourself to be – at the subconscious level. This subconscious belief-of-self in turn shapes the manifestation of the conditions, circumstances and events of your life – for better or worse.

Yes, you and I hold what I call “foundational beliefs” about ourselves that reside deep within the subconscious function of our minds. These foundational beliefs are what we “really believe about ourselves” when the chips are down. You know, when we are faced with a problem or challenge, this is the truth that we really hold about ourselves, regardless of what we might say. This is the truth that we then apply to the challenge or problem. The outcomes and results that we subsequently receive in life are then the product of combining our foundational belief to the problem and then watching nature take its course.

So here is a simple formula to keep in mind: A x B = C

“A” is the problem

“B” is your Self-Belief on this topic

“C” is the life outcome you experience

Your “self-belief” (B) is the variable. And the outcome (C) changes depending on the variable of your self-belief. If that subconscious belief that you hold is a negative one, the outcome will tend to be negative. However, when you factor in a positive self-belief, the outcome then changes for the better.

In these cases, people who hold a positive self-belief are the same folks who claim that “problems are just opportunities in disguise”; and they are of course right! This is truly their experience; and their experience further bolsters their self-belief!

Conversely, those with negative self-beliefs see problems as only problems; and they too are right for this is their experience. When the founding beliefs are negative, “the math” can never work in their favor. For these people, they continue to experience this negative cycle, thus further bolstering their self-belief in a rather harsh catch-22!

This is why the rich keep getting richer and the poor keep getting poorer, for the most part.

Now I should mention that I am illustrating this in the sense that these dynamics play out over time in a general sense. Yes, there can be exceptions here and there, but the bottom line is that your foundational self-beliefs will, much more often than not, color and shape the outcomes and quality of your life correspondingly.

Don’t Worry, There is hope!

Now, before anybody gets too depressed – because let’s face it, we all have a slew of limiting beliefs and concepts of self that are constantly wrecking havoc in our experience – let me give you the good news.

The good news is that you are in control of it all! That most powerful of all machines – your subconscious mind – has a boss, and you are it! More specifically, your conscious mind is the boss. As powerful as your sub-conscious mind is, it does take direction from you (or any outsiders you allow) for its program coordinates.

“It is only through your conscious mind that you can reach the subconscious. Your conscious mind is the porter at the door, the watchman at the gate. It is to the conscious mind that the subconscious looks for all its impressions.” – Robert Collier

In fact, for your whole life, your subconscious mind has been listening to you! Every time you called yourself a loser, or unloved, or fearful, or broke or any one of the thousands of self-proclamations you have made, it was taking notes. It was taking you at your word. It was determining that, because you said it, this was your actual desired outcome. So, it went to work fulfilling your desires. And now you don’t like the results, do you?

No problem; now that you know how it works, you can change it.

By the same exact process that got you into this mess, you can get out of it. You just need to start telling a different story about yourself. As awkward as that may feel at first, you have to start talking about yourself and your condition as you would like it to be.

Over time your powerful subconscious mind will start getting the new message. After a period of time that starts taking hold after about 30 days, it will start adjusting your “AxB=C” formula, and then you too will eventually start experiencing preferred outcomes.

If you like John Beresford’s articles, you’ll love Belief Tracks! Through Belief Tracks, John teaches how your powerful self-beliefs manifest as your life experience and how you can influence this process of personal creation for a better life.

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Research Proves It… You Are a Robot!

It is estimated that 98% of all our decisions are made subconsciously – meaning that our conscious decision-making mind is bypassed. This means that the overwhelming percentage of our decisions are made entirely from the auto-response mechanism of the subconscious mind – based on data gathered only from your past history.

The problem is that if the response you would ideally like is NOT in your historical data, then there is no way for your subconscious mind to access it and use it.

 

This of course becomes problematic if you would like to change some aspect of your life, but that aspect lies “outside” of your current subconscious “blueprint” or concept of self.

Benjamin Libet, in his groundbreaking research that in 2003 garnered the first Virtual Nobel Prize in Psychology from the University of Klagenfurt, showed that although the subconscious mind rules supreme, the conscious mind does have what he termed “Veto Power”.

Libet showed that the subconscious mind is the initiator of all volitional acts, and therefore the concept of “freewill” plays no role in their part. If the brain has already taken steps to act before such time as we are even aware of any desire to perform it, “the causal role of consciousness in volition is all but eliminated”.

Libet also found that the conscious mind did indeed have some level of influence, however. Although the conscious mind plays no role in the initiation of volitional acts, consciousness is exercised through the suppression of subconscious acts, or what Libet termed “Veto Power”. In short, the conscious mind has 150 milliseconds, or no more than about half a second to “veto” an autonomic act.

These findings underscore a few important things about our nature. First, our conscious mind is no match to the power of the subconscious mind. Secondly, the concept of willpower is largely a myth. For example, any so-called self-help approach that relies on conscious willpower is doomed to fail.

So, in order to make any meaningful changes in your life, it is unavoidable. You are going to have to face your subconscious mind.

 

If you want something different in life, you need to alter the self-image your subconscious mind has developed of you (based on information you have provided over your lifetime). Unless you address the subconscious pre-programming that defines your self-concept, and therefore your life, that change will never happen.

Happy thinking!